Overcoming untruths. Claiming what IS real.

Wayne Dyer is one my most recent "fav" authors. Currently, I am sifting through his book, Real Magic. It is good stuff.


This world is "temporarily" filled with lies that permeate our existence and fight against our being [or perhaps they just add texture to our lives]. First, families pass down both their legacies and their ignorance to their children, and each one of their encompassed individuals must discern this truth for him/herself [Maybe the individuals will glean wisdom from outside sources and predecessors. Maybe they will not]. Furthermore, schools educate according to state standards and federal mandates that slip through the system aided and abetted by government officials and their various agendas (whether well intentioned or not). [Perhaps ordinary citizens concur with the mandates, and perhaps they do not.] In addition, televisions, advertising and media services, and the Internet woo people with their various organizational versions of "supreme reality." Religions dictate dogma and doctrine in the name of aggrandized improvement. The "Smiths and the Jones" influence the local neighborhoods and the larger communities. And, I am sure there are many, many more sources for personal "truth and guidance" in America and in the greater world.


In my opinion, all people deserve to be the being they were designed to be in the beginning---before they entered the earth plane. [And on some level this is already beginning to manifest because it is our Divine destiny.] {Furthermore, I believe, at some point, there will be COMPLETE enlightenment which will usher us all into a new life understanding that will ease our struggles as we grow and develop, and perhaps even totally transform who we are.} But right now, most individuals throughout the world have been shrouded in some form of darkness. The darkness is not bad. Rather it molds us and gives shape and depth. [Consider a painting or a piece of sculpture that has no black or dark gray areas.]



Ironically, there are, also, some people that believe they are so light that they disable themselves from discovering the greater world around them. The newsworthy issue at hand of the polygamist sect in Texas is one such extreme example.


The men and women of the "cult" compound are so sheltered and so "guided" that they fail or refuse to see any reality outside of their own regimented belief system. {We are all that way to some degree.} It is of no matter to the compound residents that the country they live in has laws designed to protect and defend the innocent. The "cult" as a whole is above the law. The compound supports a tiny world of coersion and obliviousness. According to the greater world, the "cult" leaders are "authoritatively" leading its people down a primrose path; and, the people are naively adhering to the "ill-intentioned" will of the leaders.


But, not all cases of the "darkened consciousness" are so purposefully driven and controlled. Though, perhaps, I am being naive. Certainly at this stage in my life I can look around and realize how many influential scenarios are occurring in the greater world. The bottom line is that we all succumb to some form of untruth in our daily lives.


I had this boyfriend once upon a time that liked to roll a die every day to determine what he would believe and how that particular system would be enacted. It was a fascinating exercise for him. It was mind blowing to me. What can I say, I like creative people! But, I suppose the exercise had its value in the area of detachment. [And, he was brilliant in the realm of detachment!!!] But, in that mindset, one day one's way could be all truth while the next day one's former way was total untruth; and this is what I want to focus on, this sense of relativity.


As we grow older we start to realize that life is far from black and white. If we fail to realize this, disasterous effects can come into play. And what I am fast learning is that our lives are really quite malleable all the time. Some will diagree with this because of their upbringing and/or spiritual convictions. But let's look at the concept more closely.


Dyer supposes that there are a number of "lies" that we each may fundamentally connect with within the United States. They are:

1) I can't help the way I am. I have always been this way.

2) It is my nature. I inherited who I am and it can't be changed.

3) My personality is controlled by my chemistry and my metabolism.

4) My family is responsible for my personality.

5) I can't escape culture and times.

Real Magic, Dr. Wayne D. Dyer, p. 176-179


Dyer denies all of these beliefs. He purports that we are each here to create our own magical personality [and thus a magical life], and he said that even the biggest pessimist can overcome his/her self-made limitations by teaching the pessimist a new set of cognitive skills. I feel like I can jump on his bandwagon and wave bright colored flags that say, "Yes!" In fact, anyone who knew me more than four years ago can probably tell you how negative I could be [ BTW: I am still a recovering negativity monger!]---to the point of hospitalization.


But, despite the horrible existence I was leading at the time just prior to my life altering events in 2004, I did FIND a new and brighter Way for me to live. After a very desperate and life-threatening episode, I cut loose a lot of my self-limiting thoughts and behavior, and I moved into a world that quickly "became" the birth place and eternal vessel for love.


I say "became" because from my perception there was "no light at the end of the tunnel." There was only darkness and grayness almost incessantly. I would create little worlds inside me to help me survive from day to day; but to me, they were just imaginary---nothing more. So, even they were, in the end, worthless to me. I was lonely and terribly sad. Sad to the degree that I became medically depressed.


I cannot relay in this blog the events that marked the beginning of my new Way because there were several and it would take too much time to try to articulate. The aspect I want to highlight from that time period is the shift in my paradigm. I gained a strength that propelled me forward into a place of faith and trust. That place enabled me to start designing a new vision for myself.


I took the love I knew and I cultivated it so that it would grow and become immense. As I became conscious of futile thoughts and/or situations, I dumped the dead weight. Some of my friends found this to be horrific. They saw me as leaving the everlasting God of Christianity. I saw myself as holding onto Him with all my focus and might! There was a great transition that occurred in my life at that time. I took steps to announce and then step into my intention(s). I hit on the brass tacks of who I was and what I needed to be. I gave the people I cared for in my life a "heads up" so that they could transition with me, they could watch me move away from them slowly but surely [perhaps creating "glass menagerie" type relationship], or they could move completely in a separate direction from me.



I stopped listening to others before I listened to myself! It wasn't easy [and I often still practice the action] but it gave me the breath of life for the first time in a very long time. My life became mine.


This is where I merge with Dyer's positions of creating our own magical existence. Dyer plants the seed that we are MIRACLES---all of us, any life form. He then begins to build on the premise that we create in our invisible world that which we want to see and experience in our physical world. He doesn't minimize our inner being the way I did for ages. He expands it! And he determines that it is the most important thing we can do to affect change in our lives.


Six key factors to make ourselves the people we see in our mind's eye are:

1) Create a "fantasy" in your mind of exactly who and how you would like to be. This is the founding principle for your new personality and your new Way.

2) Visualize the optimal talent that you would like to have. Simply see yourself in possession of that illusive commodity.

3) Determine how smart you would like to be. How does the label genius next to your name feel?

4) Use your "magical powers" of inner persuasion to challenge everything about yourself. Your personality is made up of hundreds of habitual ways that you use to conduct the daily physical affairs of your life. Circumstances do not make the man, they reveal him.

5) Imagine for yourself the ultimate miracle, a slowing down or an elimination of the aging process. This miraculous view will have an enormous impact on the state of aging in your body.

6) You have infinite possibilities for how you can live emotionally. You are the creator of your emotions. They originate with your thoughts. The emotional reactions are actually physical in nature. Whatever emotions you are choosing with your thoughts will take up residence in your body.

p. 182-193





Dyer contends that we have, from day one, been creating our life. Every choice we have made has culminated into the person we are now. He further contends that we can recreate ourselves at any moment. I did this a few years ago.


I was doing a lot of reading about Carolyn Myss' beliefs. And I bought this Sacred Contracts "game" she had manufactured that lead me to a new perspective. I won't delve into the "game," but I will say that it had to do with Jungian archetypes. One of the four common archetypes to all mankind is the Child. Myss broke the Child down into four subcategories: Wounded, Magical, Divine and Nature.


I was inspired by the Magical Child archetype. For years I had identified with the Wounded Child. When I learned about the Magical Child I "saw" a door to healing. I did much work regarding my inner children prior to declaring myself Magical. I learned how I envisioned myself; and then, for the first time, I felt I understood how to pull myself out of the horrible quagmire I had given myself over to (consciously and subconsciously). This point is important: There must be awareness in order to illicit lasting change in our life.


Each one of us has many "children" caught in the microcosm, "Web of life" of our inner worlds. And, whether we know it or not, each child has a different need and/or want that is continually making itself known in our present existence. [Many people will probably get confused by the terminology I am using at the moment. Suffice it to say that some of us stopped growing mentally, emotionally, physically, and/or spiritually when various events occurred in our lives. We subsequently "lost" a part of ourselves.]


The good thing is that we can cause the growth to restart, we can reclaim each lost part if we can become aware of our core being. So if some traumatic event severed "ties" to a part of yourself, that hurt can be left behind and a renewed part can be instilled in you. You can find that lost part by getting in touch with your center, exploring your life, and then fearlessly confronting the damaging aspects of the event.


Before you know it, little people will begin to surface all over the place in your inner world! In my case, most of the time, I just dragged my "children" along with me throughout my life. I was wounded. Terribly. I kept dragging my hurt parts along so that one day I could heal them. You know, when I got big enough to make them all better!


Eventually I had to realize that all those girls inside me were getting too heavy to hold onto. And I started throwing them off to the side so I could continue to move on. This "disposal" caused even greater lamentation inside my soul and wounded more of my physical body. Before I knew it, I was a very injured and sick adult. I had so many wounds and so many lost parts I began to "give way." It was overwhelming to say the least.


When I started playing with the Myss "game," I came upon a new vision for myself. [This worked for me because I am a creative being that likes imagery. Something else like, perhaps, a new "music" body could be your release. Open yourself to whatever comes your way. Whatever works. Don't get hung up on details!]


That year I had been injected with a little bit of self love that stemmed from a hospitalization and a new mixture of medications. The self love enabled me to grow in my mind's eye into a beautiful creature with wings, magic and power. In addition, I witnessed my youngest niece that I had a special relationship with; and I felt her spirit inside my own heart. It was amazing! She was fully present most of the time. She showed me the joy of a young girl's being; and since she had my family's blood coursing through her veins, I felt a part of her. She was not my child, but she was all that I needed to overcome the pains of being left behind.


I created a collage image to represent my new self, and I began to develop thoughts and feelings about myself that pushed me past all the darkness in my world again and again. My momentum sped up. I was Magical. And I was both woman and child all at once. I knew empowerment on a grand scale. It was wonderful!


Dyer says if you take the six keys above, you can transform every aspect of yourself. You can discover and renew that which is malleable in you and waiting for you to recognize its power for change. I recommend, if you are interested, taking one step at a time and really dealing with the various parts of yourself. I think sometimes self help books are targeting a "like-minded" audience. In other words, I think the books are speaking to certain people who are completely cognizant of the subject discussed. The books might address everyone, but not everyone is ready for the material.

I see myself as a bridge. I attempt to breakdown information into easier and more recognizable packages. I try to meet people where they are at. Life is often complicated. People need a helping hand. Awareness can be difficult for some people to grasp, but in the end, they can grasp it. [Remember, there are varying degrees of people that resemble on some level the Texas "cult" compound.] If a person is heavily connected to his/her tribe, personal work may be excessively strenuous to identify with. The tribe's needs must be met before the individual can be considered.

Dyer provides a number of steps to help each one of us implement the change we want to be.
1) Remove all doubt about what kind of person you can become.
2) Stop using sentences in your material world that reflect what it is that you do not want to be.
3) Stay focused on what you are for rather than what you are against.
4) Remind yourself daily that you are a purposeful being.
5) Totally trust your intuition for a day at a time.
6) Know that there is a secret buried deep within your invisible self.
7) Inventory the behaviors and characteristics that you exhibited as a child but that are no longer applicable to your adult life.
8) Create an intention inventory for yourself. An inventory not a wish list that you intend to create within yourself.
9) Begin to act in your physical world as if that person whom you would love to be were already here.
10) Learn to preplay who it is you want to be in your mind before you put anything into action. Slow down!
11) Remind yourself that if you have judged yourself to be lacking in any personality variable, you will continue to manifest that lack as long as you focus on it in your mind.
12) Seek out NO opinions on your own personality.
13) Develop your own personal excellence program, first in your mind, and then start putting it into practice in your daily life.
14) Use meditation regularly to create the inner harmony and peace that will allow you to become the personality that best suits your magnificent, divine purpose here on this planet at this time.
15) Use your meditations to see yourself free from the labels that you have placed upon yourself and to become free of the big lies about your inability to change certain things about yourself.
16) Be patient and compassionate with yourself.
p. 199-209

One thing that Dyer mentions is that "body chemistry controls a great deal of how we conduct our lives."

But, he says, "We must come to an understanding that is fundamental to our humanity. If we are to have magical bodies, we must have magical minds. Our body chemistry is always being affected by how we choose to think."

Dyer "does not dispute that little invisible creatures are in our bodies."

But he states, "That we need to take a look at the enormous power that we have in our minds to contain and/or retrain the creatures to work for us rather than against us."
p. 178

This information is especially important to me since I have been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, and I have been living with the disease for almost 16 years. After my last hospitalization in 2004, I began to shed the diagnosis I had been handed back in 1992.

It is important to realize the ramifications of health care situations. I have become very familiar with the personality of my illness. And despite all that I know, I began to support the case for my wellness four years ago. Eckhart Tolle mentioned in his new book, A New Earth that he had encountered Stephen Hawking before Hawking was a renown mathematician and physicist. Hawking was given less than 5 years to live when Tolle crossed his path. Hawking has now gone well beyond that time frame to extend his life span and create the miracles he has become famous for.

My path to wellness has been slow and methodical. Again, I think this is important when body magic is performed. Know what you have been up against. Take an inventory of all that has been said or done. Then, step by step discard the information that no longer serves you. Replace trashed information with new helpful, life-shifting data. Believe that anything is possible, because, in fact, it is. [For example, recall that Christopher Colombus was told the world was flat.] But, truly listen to yourself and the world around you. Delusion is not what you want to achieve. Magic is what you want to create. Again, determine to be patient with yourself and the process. Take tabs on every success that manifests. Celebrate each one. Be compassionate with any struggles you might come upon.

Discover the unlimited possibilities you harbor within yourself. You are a miracle. You are a child of God. Magically transform your personality and your life from this day forward. It is not only possible, it is probable! You hold the keys to your new identity---to your new world.